Three days ago, it was Maundy Thursday on the Christian Calendar. It was also April Fools day. And that morning, I was in a good mood. You see I had set aside time that morning to finally put this sermon on” Resurrecting Joy” together. I had been working on it by placing good quotes and articles, etc. in a folder on my desktop, but that morning was the time for more analysis and composition. And that brings me JOY – especially when the topic was JOY. As I was getting started, I got a message on my phone from someone saying they had forgotten the password for our UU Statesboro directory. I didn’t recognize the phone number so said – “Who is this?” I got a response with a name of one of our Statesboro members who has been doing a lot of good work. But I did have enough sense – I thought – to make sure it was him by asking sort of a “security question.” And I messaged, just to be safe – tell me what committee you are on. And he responded with the correct committee. SO – I gave him the password – and even created a contact in my phone with his name and this new number he was using. A little later he messaged back that he had a friend he was trying to help, and he was having problems with his cash app – and wondered if I could use mine to send his friend the money, then he would pay me back. Dang – this was a scam. I said, “Call me.” He responded – “Can’t call now – I’m at the bank trying to get this thing straight. It’s urgent that he get this right away, and I can send you his Cash App and I can send you his cashapp name.” Then later he did call with music playing, then hung up. I called back and he answered – and of course it was not the voice of our member and he hung up. So I spent the -rest of the morning working to change passwords (knowing that he had probably already printed out our entire directory). And, of course, I tried to contact our UUFS folks via email, Facebook, and constant contact to share with them how I had messed up and that they would probably be getting an email from someone pretending to be me. And, indeed, many did. Thankfully – I think I was the only April Fool that day!
Folks, when we had Easter online in 2020 – very few thought we’d be here in 2021. But here we are again. It’s been a really tough year in so many ways. All of us have been through a lot – some more than others. It’s a very anxious time regarding our future for many reasons – not all related to the pandemic. Here’s what one of my colleagues, Rev. Kevin Carson, said about this:
So, in many of my sermons this past year, I’ve lifted up lots of concerns and worries and encouraged us to be there for one another in these difficult times.
Like many of you, I suspect, my uncertainty about our future has tempered the joy I typically feel around the Springtime and Easter. But folks, it IS Spring and a glorious one here in southeast Georgia! And it is Easter! So today – I’m going to attempt to help myself and help you resurrect some JOY in our lives. Now I know that many of you have found ways to focus on those things that bring you Joy. I asked folks in our two Facebook groups to share in 7 words or less what brings them Joy – and got lots of good responses. I also found out that some of our folks can’t count to seven – or maybe as UUs, we don’t want our ministers to put any limitations on us!
Of the 24 responses I received by 11 am Friday, eight of them mentioned children – their own or grandchildren – or other children. For many children and activities with them bring joy. I recognize that from recently keeping my two great-grandchildren for a few days. It was very joyful and very exhausting. Sometimes, joy can wear you out. Others expanded that joy to other family members – including their fur babies!
The second thing I noticed that brought our folks joy was connecting with nature.
Watching the sun rise, a freshly sprouted garden, time on the beach, watching hummingbirds, feeling a cool breeze, sunshine and leafy green shade, dancing in the rain, and walking in the woods.
Some mentioned other actions that brought joy. Helping others, playing a musical instrument, completion of an anthem for our online services, manual labor, laughing, listening to music, the creative process of painting or other artwork, and observing others joys and successes.
All of these relate to connecting – don’t they? And one person even brought it home to the joy of connecting with his own mind and body and reasoning.
Sadly, there are folks who might try to diminish our joy. Rev. Erika Hewitt wrote about a tweet by Roger Cooper that asked, “Could we, without relentlessly criticizing, let people have their pumpkin spice, and avacado toast, and their fandoms, and their D&D, and their too-early-Halloween-decorations, and whatever little harmless things in which they’ve manage to find a tiny, shriveled flower of joy?”
Erika went on to say, “To date, more than 332,400 people have liked this tweet. I did. I'm in favor of allowing people their ‘tiny, shriveled flower of joy’—what I imagine as small hearth fires that we each build to keep our spirits warm in a cold world. Surprise: it didn’t take long for the Twitterverse to pile on Mr. Cooper for spelling “avocado” wrong. He patiently thanked his critics for ‘helping me to know that I’ve made a mistake,’ declining to point out the irony in his suffering the very type of relentless criticism whose moratorium he’d been pleading for. (His follow-up tweet: ‘We’re all just trying to survive.’)”
Although some folks seem to make it their goal to sit in the judge’s seat on every little thing anyone says or does, we all can fall into this – especially on social media – when someone makes a mistake or something. And I see folks saying how they cringe when someone uses the wrong “there” in a sentence. Really? Now sometimes we do need to point out an error or a problem, but I’m trying to do more “calling in” by sending private messages or calling folks on the phone rather than jump on that horrible bandwagon of calling them out in a way that embarrasses them or puts them on the defense.
And as I get older – I just don’t let a lot of stuff bother me so much. I try to make room for that Joy. I walked over to see my Mama the other day – and noticed that her yard was covered with that weed that has those tiny little yellow flowers growing close to the ground. I looked it up and I believe it may be Oxalis. In any case, I realized that this weed had destroyed my mom’s lawn. But then I thought – “but isn’t it pretty.” And I tried to help Mama find the joy in them as well. Life is too short to be bothered by the things that just aren’t that important.
The author EB White knew how to look for the joy. According to one source, “White and his family came to live full-time at their farmhouse on the coast of Maine. By all accounts he loved his life on the farm, relishing the delight… of the natural world that surrounded him. In fact, he once stopped in his barn, captivated, watching a spider spinning her egg sac. That spider eventually became ‘Charlotte.’”
“I arise in the morning torn between a desire to improve the world and a desire to enjoy the world. This makes it hard to plan the day.”
But – you say – there’s no time for doing those things. Well, we MAKE time for doing some things that aren’t so pleasurable. For example, we schedule dentist appointments. So, we can also schedule these happy moments. My happy time when I’m on St. Simons is walking on the beach. I check the tide chart – and schedule my work around the low tide – so that I can take my walk when I can get on the beach right around the corner from my condo. Yeah, it’s a tough life. And in Statesboro, I have beautiful places to walk as well that I schedule around the time of day when it’s not too hot. And the planning for those joyful times – whether a full- fledged vacation or a good homemade supper with a loved one, can be wonderful as well – you know – Anticipation of those pleasant life possibilities.
The second pathway to happiness is to seek what Seligman calls” the good life.” In this life, we seek to identify what he calls our signature strengths and engage those to obtain gratification. Signature strengths are those qualities, activities, virtues that you are both good at and passionate about.
The essence is: seek to do what you love. You typically know when you’re doing what you love, because you get completely immersed in it, maybe even losing track of time. You’re in the flow.
I’m not good at putting puzzles together. My mom always thought puzzles were a waste of time, because once you finished it – it was just going to be torn up again. But I really did try to join in with my cousin Aris in her joy of putting together jigsaw puzzles when we were children. But she was so good at it. And I was not. Now perhaps with more practice I could get good at it, but it’s not really a strength of mine. I do have strengths – and fortunately, I’ve found good ways to use them that help me have a good life – and I hope others as well. So, examine your life, and see if you can do more of what you are good at – what you love, and less of what drains you.
The third pathway to happiness is to seek what Seligman calls” the meaningful life.” In this case, we expand on the good life, so that we apply our signature strengths in service to something much larger than ourselves.
That’s why many of us become a part of a community like our congregations and serve on committees and more. We become missionaries of a sort – because we are serving a mission that is larger than ourselves. We are trying to repair what is broken and create a better world.
The Dalai Lama describes what he does each morning. “I set my intention for the day: that this day should be meaningful. Meaningful means, if possible, serve and help others. If not possible, then at least not to harm others. That’s a meaningful day.”
Like the Dalia Lama, we can attempt to have meaningful days and a meaningful life.
These three pathways — the pleasant, the good, the meaningful life paths — are not exclusive. We can do them together. Seligman calls this living” a full life,” saying, “A full life consists in experiencing positive emotions about the past and future, savoring positive feelings from the pleasures, deriving abundant gratification from your signature strengths, and using these strengths in the service of something larger to obtain meaning.”
Yes, we’ve had a difficult year and more. I know I have – and I’ve followed some of you knowing that you have as well. But my HOPE for our precious UU family is that we may all Resurrect some Joy on this Easter Day!